Being A "Warrior" Is A Trauma Response

Writing this book is the most potent and introspective journey I've taken in quite some... As I sit here writing words that transform into sentences, paragraphs, chapters, and eventually a finished work somewhere down the road, I observe my resistances to share parts of my story; the parts that I have never spoken of in public... the parts that I've hidden from my own family for decades... As I notice the fear of judgement arise, I sit in silence and give my emotions and thoughts the space to be acknowledged, expressed, and processed one at a time knowing that the only way to touch the hearts and minds of my readers is to be transparent, vulnerable, and raw... to shine the spotlight on my imperfections and my turbulent teenage years and tell not only the story of the many surreal triumphs but also the more important story of surrender...

I have learned that strength isn't always about beating the odds... sometimes strength comes in form of accepting what is... knowing when to hold on and knowing when to let go...



We often respond to trauma by taking on either a Shame-Based identity or a Pride-Based identity; we become victims or warriors... they are the flip sides of the same coin... yet very often, we celebrate the warriors as symbols of courage and strength not recognizing the high cost; the sword and armor that protect, also isolate...

Maintaining a warrior identity is a deeply exhausting endeavor... Our needs go unmet because we somehow buy into the false story that our needs do not matter or that asking for help is a sign of weakness... and the environment, in turn, magnifies this falsehood; believing that strong people don't need support and that they somehow have it all together...

My loves, let me say this with great certainty (and I rarely ever do that):

The people who don’t seem to need support and care are the ones who need it the most!

So make a point this week to reach out to that strong, warrior type you have in your life and just let them know that you are there to tend their needs if they ever feel overwhelmed, tired, or lonely... they might not know how to receive it but plant the seed anyway, it'll sprout exactly at the right time..


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